) at two different phases of my life; the crossroads between my teens, and now, in a period that I like to call my “semi-adulthood.” Like most girls, I started off with sneak peeks because I couldn’t resist the temptation of watching something I was warned against.
Slowly, I became personally invested in the characters and their lives, particularly captivated by the quick-witted and confident protagonist Carrie Bradshaw. Ridiculous but true, Carrie Bradshaw quotes made me constantly reflect on my own writing.
While Carrie and Samantha both cop to abortions in their pasts, discussion of the subject is decidedly more nuanced than it is in modern-day counterpart “Girls,” where a character misses her abortion appointment only because she’s hooking up with a new guy.
Dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, Miranda cries, red-eyed in the waiting room, “Oh God, Carrie, is this my baby? It’s hard to imagine the Left admitting even this much conflict or emotion over what’s euphemistically termed “choice” today, when they insist that abortion is the moral equivalent of clipping a toenail.
Financially (and unrealistically) successful as each of the “Sex and the City” foursome may be, the series still dealt with the problems that come up in relationships when the traditional male provider role is inverted.
Old-fashioned Charlotte states openly, “It’s just normal for the man to have more money,” while Carrie and Miranda struggle with the emotional juggling act of dating men less professionally successful than they are.
The pilot episode of the show features “toxic bachelors” giving advice to single women in their 30s.
Samantha meets a former boyfriend whose drag persona is suspiciously similar to her own, and quarrels with some transsexual prostitute neighbors the girls dub the “Up My A– Players.” Men who imagine they are women are derisively labeled “pseudo-straight married men from New Jersey.” Bisexualism is treated with skepticism, as “just a layover on the way to gaytown.” While the characters accept homosexuality without a hint of condemnation, they find the “spectrum” of sexuality millennials laud today laughable.
They’ve long left behind voices like Camile Paglia’s or Lana Del Rey’s, preferring to enforce uniformity among women, who in reality hold an enormous variety of political and cultural views.
Women who disagree aren’t even deserving of their own vaginas, they say.
“Sex and the City” is frequently criticized for portraying women as only concerned about relationships, but the fact is that women put more emphasis on the interpersonal than men do.
The plotlines of the show reflect that, from Charlotte quitting work in advance of hoping to get pregnant and be a stay-at-home mother, to Carrie dropping her iconic column to move to Paris with her lover.
With each episode that I watched, I became inspired to put pen to paper, to delve deep into diverse themes without being scared about what people would say.